Rookie
First, on spinning the other boat or you or whichever way you want to think about it… if you are willing to commit a decent portion of your weight to the front of the boat after you have emptied it of water, you can snap it around very quickly to get it parallel to your own boat. This works better from the bow in most boats, but it’ll work from the stern as well. Just spin you and it around in whatever direction is needed to get the bow to stern relationship set up.
This is one reason that I said be able to work from the stern as well, there can be moments when it’ll be the first part of the boat you can grab.
Unless you are in very active water where hanging onto the other boat is itself a real problem, this is way faster than walking around the empty boat on the deck lines. And again with a smaller person will require some commitment of weight., This where working with an empty boat can really help to increase your comfort.
IN GENERAL - as a smaller person you will have to add the part of committing more of your weight to the other boat in manuvers than the guys. It takes some practice to get comfy with it, But it is simple physics - at a lighter weight yourself in a smaller volume boat, there is no other choice. If this has not been part of your coaching so far, add it yourself.
The risk here is not as much that you can’t execute a rescue, but that you aren’t balancing the swimmer’s weight well and you both end up in the water. I’ve had that happen, just once and the disproportion between me and the other was more extreme than if we had both been in sea kayaks. But it was a powerful lesson.
Rex
When my husband and I were paddling we regularly invited people who were new and had no skills beyond paddling and generally staying upright. We did not invite major newbies or anyone unwilling to invest in a dry suit in cold weather, and there were always far more rescue-capable people than anyone new. In fact there was at least one person who did their first ever rescue on one of these trips. I fell out of my boat when we were 100 feet out from our lunch spot and made the new paddler rescue me. They were talked trhu it by others in the group, and when we went out again after lunch we had them fall into the water and talked them in.
They ended up being more capable paddlers, taking training and generally being an asset on the water. Taking them out that first time when they had no idea of how to do anything was the difference.
I repeat - if you are only focused on having fully capable people in a paddle, you are doing nothing to bring newer people into kayaking. It is certainly a choice you can make. And since I am a solo paddler these days, it is a choice I make more frequently simply because of numbers. Without a partner who is also rescue-capable, I have to restrict going out with someone who can’t participate in a rescue because I have seen it take two people to rescue one where things got really out of hand.
There are choices I could make to help someone else enjoy the activity with Jim that I can’t make now. But I am happy that for a long time I was able to make those more generous choices. I met a lot of people that way, a few of whom are companions either on the water or socially years later. One of them is the reason I can go for more interesting paddling when I can connect with her in Maine.
Peter-CA
Yes, we are both right. My concern was that Rex was dimishining the value of Rookie’s quite sensible suggestion. Especially given that as a smaller person she needs to work a little harder to wrangle a sea kayak, Personally I have altered my paddling quite a bit to accommodate being a solo paddler when I am up in Maine, and the helmet is part of my summer so I can practice rolling without a partner. At least it forced me to get a better helmet…