This is also what I learned when I 1st started using a sea kayak, and found it could handle wind and waves very well if I simply learned how to use the tools. In big waves, chop and wind the weak link in a kayak is nearly always the kayaker.
A well designed kayak is capable of incredible uses in waves that most folks would say are not possible to get through in a man powered craft. The use of a skeg is a big advantage, but as you learn, use it as little as you can get away with. In my Chatham17 as well as both my Rebel kayaks in winds that tend to blow my hat off, I find I can use about 1/2- 2/3 the available blade most times, and the kayak settles down and does as I ask it.
To Relax in the cockpit is the key. The catch 22 is trying to relax in a situation that makes you think it’s dangerous. The more you tense up the more the kayak fails to respond to you needs and the more that happens the more dangerous it gets or feels
But if you do relax and up-grade your skills, waves and wind that would scare you to your bones when you started are simply a fun time when you learn how to use a kayak in the correct way.
So… How do you learn to relax?
You spend a lot of time in the kayak and when the waves are up and the wind is blowing, get to a place that it blows you into land not away from it and get out about 20 yards from shore and spend time in the kayak working on those waves in wide circles clockwise and counterclockwise. Go out in conditions you don’t think you can handle, but do it in places that push you and your kayak inland when you fail. Only seat time can cure the problem.
Watching videos and reading books help you to remember what the experts tell us, but to become more expert yourself you must do it. So go do it in a safe place and do not be afraid to fail. Pushing yourself to the point of failure is the fastest way to learn a physical skill, and going inside your comfort zone may take you 5-7 years to learn what you can learn in 3 months is you push to the failure point. Failure is only failure it it’s where you stop.
Failure is the best friend you can have if you really want to learn skills fast. Most folks become afraid in places where the danger is real. In water with wind and waves pushing you towards land and only 20 yards out, the emotions are there, but the danger is mostly just in your mind.
Once you go over a few dozen times and just get to shore, turn the kayak over to empty it, re-launch and trey again, ----- inside about 1 week you’ll be amazed that those size waves and that degree of wind ever scared you at all. In a week or so they are easy to manage.
Have faith in yourself! If you don’t take stupid chances as you learn there really is not great danger so push your skills until you learn how to do them, and every time you go upside down, just laugh it off and think about the point you capsized and how your body was at that moment.
The books and videos are THEN worth the time you spent listening and reading because that how you’ll see what you did wrong and as you push yourself to your personal edge, you find you push the edge back and back and back ----- and a lot faster then you ever thought possible.
Lastly, if you have any friends who are skilled paddlers, go with them and let them coach you and talk about the skills and you can help each other. A skilled instructor would be worth a lot I am sure. Where I live I had no such opportunities, so I had to learn on my own, using only videos and books. But because I know what I had to do to learn the skills, I now can teach them probably 20 times faster then I was able to self-teach.
So good company is well worth having in the learning stage. (well at any stage for that matter) If instruction is available by all means get it. But don’t let your self doubts rule you and never be afraid to try to a point of capsize when you are set up just for such an eventuality.
I am a pretty old man, and I didn’t start kayaking until I was well past my prime, but I take courage in that the few face to face times I did have time with masterful kayakers (so far) were with men who did amazing things in kayaks and they were both 15+ years older then I am. When I was 65 and they were 81 and 79, and could do things so effortlessly they seems like magicians, I realized I am NOT too old, too crippled, or too anything but maybe too afraid of swimming. Once I was comfortable capsizing and reentering and once I learned a few basic rolls I was not afraid of waves anymore.
At one time waves that came over my deck got me all tense and nervous. Now I go out in waves I can’t see over, and it’s fun. I envy coastal kayakers because they get to play in waves made by winds a long way away. In the mountains wind and wave size are locked together. We have no tides and so waves must be actively pushed by winds. My limit is around 35 MPH because over that I can’t stay with it very long, and trying to go against winds of 35 MPH or more is really not possible for me for very long. I can cut at 45 degrees to them and ferry back and forth and cover some distance, but after maybe 8 miles of that I am all worn out and the fun is gone.
But the point is that even in 35 MPH wind driven waves with a 8-10 mile fetch I now like playing in the waves. A few years back a wave of 20 inches seemed terrifying. As I lost the fear I came to relax, and as I relaxed I got better and better at paddle strokes and braces, which made me relax more, which reduced fear of even higher waves --------------- and so on and so on.
Failure can be your best friend or your worst foe.
Which one it becomes is up to you.